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“women’s” interests/affinities/hobbies ((stuff thats regarded as feminine even when its men doing it)) are better than mens’. women make things. women Make clothes, that you can wear. Make food, that you eat. Write books and stories, that you hold, read, gift.

zines. baking. candle making. etsy shops full of home made lip balms and stationery. drawing. your friend who does pottery. your cousin’s new jewelry business.

reality tv shows, everything on HGTV, pinterest crafts.

stuff that womyn make is what archaeologists find and study. we know about daily life hundreds of years ago because women kept diaries. the world is physical, material, real.

EDIT (feb 2017): I recently read an article that proved that cave paintings- arguably the most important pieces of 2D art – were made by women. 🙂

men prioritize abstracts – like what the fuck even are sports. the internet is evil. corporate jobs??? what???? what the fuck

this womyn physical – man abstract thing applies to so much

there is a reason womyn are shown to be more environmentally conscious than men. there is a reason more womyn are vegan and vegetarian that men. there is a reason men place more value on money than on people, relationships, animals, and the earth.

whatever bye

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“Herself” – Does anyone really listen to what a naked woman says?

phonaesthetica

Herself, a new “feminist” photo project currently making the rounds online, features lots of naked women. Created by a TV actress, Herself purports to “highlight’s women’s sexuality on their own terms” and “help demystify the female form, to assist in the erasure of coveting it, and to help celebrate the ever changing face of it.”

Sounds legit! I don’t know what “the erasure of coveting it” means (“you guys, let’s stop being jealous of each other’s boobs”)? but I’m all for demystifying the female form. If we can do that, why, perhaps we can successfully address female genital mutilation, breast cancer, bad hetero sex, child marriage, maternal death, the practice of raping virgins to cure AIDS, and starvation dieting!

More background from the creator of Herself, who (offensively, to me) identifies as “a lesbian who has a male partner”:

My vagina has been an unending and constant source…

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“Herself” – Does anyone really listen to what a naked woman says?

You Don’t Have To Be Pretty – On YA Fiction And Beauty As A Priority

The Belle Jar

“I’m not trying to be self-deprecating,” I say, “I just don’t get it. I’m younger. I’m not pretty. I –”

He laughs, a deep laugh that sounds like it came from deep inside him, and touches his lips to my temple.

“Don’t pretend,” I say breathily. “You know I’m not. I’m not ugly, but I am certainly not pretty.”

“Fine. You’re not pretty. So?” He kisses my cheek. “I like how you look. You’re deadly smart. You’re brave. And even though you found out about Marcus …” His voice softens. “You aren’t giving me that look. Like I’m a kicked puppy or something.”

“Well,” I say. “You’re not.”

Veronica Roth, Divergent

This handful of sentences, spoken by Divergent‘s protagonists Tris and Four, might be some of the most revolutionary words ever written in a young adult novel. In fact, they’re pretty incredible no matter what the genre…

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You Don’t Have To Be Pretty – On YA Fiction And Beauty As A Priority

working backwards

fact: the world is completely saturated and based in misogyny. all our major civilizations and culture and lifestyle have misogynist foundations.

if we try to understand our world and our misogyny, the easiest conclusion to come to is that misogyny is natural, that women are less than human. this is if our starting point in our thinking is the culture we live in. if we look at the reality, which is that women are less than human (under patriarchy), and then try to figure out why women are lessthanhuman in that reality, its very hard to come to any conclusion that gives women humanity. its basically just- Men are evil. and thats hard to believe! no one wants to believe that men are just naturally evil!

so instead we believe that men are human, and that women arent, and therefore they dont get to have a human life.

****this is exactly the same deal with white supremacy. and with speciesism. and with classism. we all CLEARLY, constantly see that POC, nonhuman animals, and poor people are seen/treated as subhuman. there is no hiding that at all. but in order to accept this reality, we have to fuck up our brains and make ourselves believe that these groups ARE less than human. (i need a word other than human cuz honestly this whole argument is speciesist rn) and from there, we have to make ourselves believe that being less than human means that one is meant to be exploited and abused.

its easier to doublethink than it is to change stuff i guess????????

what we have to do, with all of these things, is start not from the current physical reality, but with REAL FOR REAL reality, a.k.a., the fact that women, POC, and poor people are human. if we begin our thinking at “Women are human”, then its much easier to get to the truth(?). So, women are human ==> women are exploited, abused, and hated under patriarchy, solely for the fact that they are women ==> men are exploiting, abusing, and hating fellow human beings for no reason other than their own benefit ==> men are evil ==> men are subhuman.

men

are

sub

human

ok bye.

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punpun rant or something lol

Feb

im gonna read punpun but pretend punpun is a girl.

SHIT OK

NO

NOPE

IT fucking did the THING it diD THe thing every fucking story does it did the SHITTY FUCKING HORRIBLE THING THAT THEY ALL DO

the scene where the young boy is traumatized by porn!!! but really theyre traumatized by vaginas!!!! vaginas are horrible and scary poor lil boy what a tragic thing he was so innocent and he was scarred and contaminated by the sight of the disgusting vagina!!!! then he sees an anatomical drawing of a vulva in an encyclopedia and is really scared because they look like mean scary aliens!! 3 panels devoted to scary vulva-aliens! he has a wet dream that includes the scary porn and the girl he likes!!! and hes all freaked out about it and thinks his brain melted poor BOY POOR YOUNG MAN <:C

i want to fucking scream about this why the fuck is this in so many things. there is literally never a scene where a lil girl is freaked out about porn or penises or something! if there is any mention of sexuality type things concerning a young female character it will be that she was raped or that she was raped and is now experienced and promiscuous at a too young age and proceeds to traumatize the POOR LITTLE BOY.

according to stuff like this PORN=WOMEN=GIRLS=FEAR=VAGINAS=SEX=WEIRD=PORN=SEXY=CONFUSING= I FUCKING HATE EVERYTHING I HATE MEN I HATE THE WORLD

punpun rant or something lol

ok actually i want to talk about relationships and physical proximity/contact. i think a major huge reason for the rise in depression and mental issues in general in the west is because of the decline in close friendships and the lack of home-stability (thats what im calling it). people are expected to move across the country, even to other countries, for their careers. they’re expected to drop all the friends they’ve made in the area they live in, their home that they’ve made for themselves, their connection to the place they live,,, for a job… like we’re not even supposed to question that. that a career (money) is literally the most important thing in one’s life. this applies to school also, like how people are expected to move far away from their family and friends at a young age for college.

and then because of these distances that this creates, people are communicating mostly online/mobile-y. criticism of the prevalence of online relationships is usually dismissed as old people stuff, but i think people are misunderstanding it- our parents and grandparents arent just trying to tell us we’re dumb for making friends online, they’re trying to remind us that being physically around the people we’re close to… isn’t just important, its necessary for our (mental) health. but i know that a LOT of the people who make friends mostly online are people who dont have the opportunity to make friends who they can love and trust near them. but then we see how most of the physical/local clubs, groups, events for young people, for people with niche interests have disappeared and moved online. so where someone 15 years ago could have found friends close to them with similar interests, that possibility is just gone now, and they’re forced to find these people online.

i think soon there’s gonna be a resurgence of physical gatherings and physical friendships. somehow the internet will bring people together, like for real together.

oh and yeah, why physically close friendship is important: theres studies on it for one thing lol. the chemical that releases in our brains when we hug. yeah. we just fucking need to be around people ok.

and! almost forgot; the physical friendships that we DO have in the west arent very physical at all! we dont hug and kiss and sleep in the same bed with our friends like other cultures do. or spend entire weeks together, staying at eachothers’ house. talking about our feelings For Real for real. we need that. we’re deprived, we’re starving for it.

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its a pretty basic well known fact within feminism that males get praised and worshipped for doing (once or twice) the things that women are expected to do every single day. like when a man cooks its amazing and sweet and whatever, and when a woman cooks its literally not even acknowledged. itd be weird if she DIDNT cook.

i just read a trending news article about a dad in armenia who decided to keep his son with downs syndrome, but the mom didnt want the baby, so she divorced him. as i expected, the comments are full of praise for the dad and insults for the mom. which is whatever, yknow, sure. but then i was like – wait. what if this had been the other way around? people would criticize the mom for even acknowledging the possibility of giving the child up. like, i’ll bet money that theres cases exactly like this every year where the mom decides to keep it but the husband doesnt. (maybe in those times she is forced to give it up because women rely on husbands and stuff tho). people rarely ever criticize absent or deadbeat fathers. they’re like ‘he should have the choice of whether or not to be tied down etc etc’. (those same people probably praise women for keeping children conceived from rape). a father who stays with his family and spends time with them, even if he’s kind of a shit dad, is always praised and met with awe. but a woman doesnt even have the option NOT to do this. she could be the best mom in the world but people will always think she should be doing better.

ok bye

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